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心理学家劳拉·马卡姆:

养育优秀娃最重要的5条原则

培养好孩子的5大规则

The top 5 rules for raising great kids

1.调节自己的情绪

1. regulate your own emotions

2.与您的孩子保持联系

2. stay connected with your child

因为这是对孩子产生影响的唯一办法  

because that's the only way you'll ever have any influence with your child

3. 做情感的教练

3 emotion coach

帮助你的孩子

So you help your child

处理困难情绪

 with difficult emotions

因为当孩子们可以

because when kids can

调节自己的情绪时

regulate their emotions

他们可以规范自己的行为

They can regulate their behavior

4. 要有底线

4 set limits

对孩子抱有很高的期望的同时

have high expectations

也要建立同理心

but do it with empathy

了解孩子的观点

see your child's point of view

让他们感到被理解

so they feel understood at the same time

最后

and finally

试着不去训斥孩子

dare not to discipline

但是要引导你的孩子

 guide your child

不要觉得惩罚是有必要的

but don't feel a need to punish

总是会伤害

always erodes your relationship

你和孩子的关系

with your child

实际上也不会让孩子表现得更好

and actually doesn't get better behavior